Love Cheaters

I wrote some time ago about cheating between best friends. This subject just came to my mind again because I had some very strong memories of a cheating wife flirting with me, right next to one of my good friends.

As a man, I felt good - it is always flattering when a women is so interested in you. But as friend, I felt terrible. I was wondering what should I do: should I denounce the cheater or should I keep it secret and take advantage of a very, very tempting affair.

Of course, as a good friend, probably the best thing to do would have been to simply warn my friend about his dangerous dating. But the situation was not that simple. She was not a dating, she was his .. wife. And in such case, could I risk to damage the marriage only by suggesting some “assumptive” flirts. I would have also risked to raise envy feelings to my friend or to destroy his trust in his wife and thus his entire relationship.

What is the best thing to do in such a situation ?

Probably I know, but on the other hand, I had the feeling that my friend is not very in love with his beautiful wife and his wife is not really in love with my old fellow there. More than that, the woman was looking pretty hot and she seemed to be so .. experienced and discrete about all theses things. Not to mention the incredible but pleasant feeling of fear of being uncovered doing such a horrible thing.

Again, what should I have done ? What would have been good for everybody ? What would have happened if I told him about his cheating wife - let’s say I would have seduced her and then denounced her: I think this way I would have destroyed their marriage immediately (and no adventure for me :P).

But what if I would have let things go.. and see what happen.. of course, be careful about it and keep it secret. Maybe have some secrete datings, making a little passionate love (because the passion was burning in our eyes, hers and mine) and keep our partners “away” of this .. “dangerous” love affair. Then I thought if nobody finds out, nobody will be hurt and everybody is .. quite happy : my friend can keep his “refreshed” wife (sorry, but that’s true), the wife remains with an unforgettable love affair and her fantasy fulfilled , my love partner will probably never find out about this and she will keep loving me as before or even more, because I will be “refreshed” as well.

Oh God, please forgive me if I am sinner - but I didn’t start this. I just did what was best for. And loving people is not bad, isn’t it ?

PS: I am not sure I will be able to do this, but I will try to put in words the wonderful moments we spent together…

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I was talking with a friend today if there is anybody there, I mean a married person, who has never cheated his partner all marriage long. Actually, the discussion got more complicated - who are we talking about ? what kind of people ? how is cheating around the globe ? and so on…

We both agreed that a couple where at least one of them is a very attractive person, well that couple is more exposed to the risk of cheating than a couple of two ugly people. Or maybe not …

For example, in my case (I look pretty good ), I’m not sure if it would be possible for me , nor for my woman, to stay “clean” all life long - I am trying to be realistic here. I have a beautiful woman and I am sure she has a lot of men asking her out at this very moment, as for me, I am a man and like all men, I might be tempted one day to “hunt again”. Still, what we could do (and what we do) is to protect each other. Moreover, I am probably prepared to understand if she has had an affair one day because I know she did a good job hiding it from me all this time. My opinion is that it doesn’t hurt as long as you don’t know and as long as love is still there (in bad and in every little gesture).

And by the way, what should be call “cheating”?

An innocent kiss at a party or something more serious like sleeping with someone. Some say (and I agree) that one night with another person is not that bad - it might even help to “refresh” your relationship. What I believe is really bad is dating regularly with the same person or dating too often with other persons. So, this is what I call real cheating. All the rest is just a game of mind and personality.

Resuming my discussion with my friend, we can barely say we reached a conclusion. We couldn’t agree when real cheating starts - what is acceptable and what is not. Are beautiful people more tempted to cheat than the rest ? Can it be a personality problem ? What about this game of mind and personality ? (a kind of “light cheating”).

But I like this syntax - “a game of mind and personality” - and I think it deserves an entire post that will probably come very, very soon

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