Now I have better feelings about this - I was thinking about cheating as a sex toy, as a fantasy. 

The dream of any cheater is to be treated as a sex toy. I think nobody cheats in order to fall in love with someone else, but to have sex, to excape their routined love life, to acomplish a fantasy.. or..

And sex toys are good: you play with them when you want, you do with them what you want, they’re discrete (never talk about it to anybody), they’re… safe ! Isn’t that great  ?!!

I think this is what (at least) a man is expecting from his cheating partner. He wants to treat his cheating partner as sex toy and he wants to be treated as a sex toy. If no committments are involved the better it is. Not to mention the sex games you can have. Some men consider that they should not do “things” with their wives, with the mothers of their children. So they think they can afford anything they ever desired for with another woman - their cheating partner.

I’m not sure if it’s the same from the woman standpoint. I know there are women that treat men as sex toys as well, but these are rare cases, nimphomanes maybe, actresses from adult movies. Usual women are not like that. When they cheat they want involvement from their cheating partner, they want respect and they want to do it.. as discrete as possible. Men are talking loud about their cheating adventures to their friends. Women are carefull about who they share with their naughty escapades, especially if she is a .. married woman.

However, I think that we men are treating or like to treat our cheating partners like sex toys more than women.

And I did have chills in my stomach.

Oh yeah, I see myself as a real hunter; so this was that kind of opportunity that a “real hunter” would never miss. So, I slowly started the hunt and it seemed to work fine. She was not really acting like being committed in any kind of relationship, not to mention that she was not wearing any ring. I was happy to notice that and that encouraged me to move forward with my teasing. little chat and flirting.

Things went pretty well all day and I was starting to think about what’s next. I got her name and messenger ID, so that was just enough for me to find more about her on the Internet. So, I’ve got back home, jumped in my bad, grabbed my laptop and started to look for her over the web.

After some browsing, I found her on a social networking site. Nothing wrong about that, I guess most of the young people have nowadays an account in sites like myspace.com. She was not a really active user. She looked more like a nice, decent woman just playing around the Internet: she had some connections, some friends, a brother and a sister and.. surprise !!.. she was also connected with one guy having exactly the same LAST name with hers.

He was too young to be her father, definetly it was not her brother (I have had already found out her brother’s age), so, it really looked like her husband to me.

I was so happy that day because I had the feeling she was a ray of light in my life, but after finding this, the sky felt down on me. All my actions in that day looked stupid and childish. I astounded had to recognize that she was the cheater here. I was a fool to believe that I was being the hunter - actually, I was being only the victim of some beautiful woman that was probably only playing with me, while getting more confident about her still “active” seduction power.

I imagined all the fun she must have had with me all day - I had an terrible urge to get revenge on her somehow, immediately.

But still… why wasn’t she wearing a ring ?

And, the big question: What a “real hunter” would do in such situation ?

Some of these articles are really good and seem to be helpful for the desperate people seeking for advice. However, a lot of them are also seeding panic in their hearts and mind. Generally, the cheated ones (if there is a cheating case) become paranoiac about almost everything their partners do or say.

For example, one of the top symptoms is related to the mobile phone usage - the cheater is strangely answering some phone calls; or, the cheater is not even answering some calls, or messages are received at an “unusual” time, generally at night or late in the evening. Being a cheater once, I can admit these were things that happened to me too and I was doing a pretty good job on hiding them from my lover.

However,  there were a lot of moments when I behaved pretty much like a cheater (see the behavior above) without being a cheater. At that time, I was doing that on purpose, just to raise interest of my partner, to make her jealous or to spread some mystery around me. And this is what I call a “false positive”.

The bad thing with a false positive is when you are in the victim’s position - it makes you look week if you react to such “false positives”. It can destroy your relationship, it can affect trust and love you have from your partner.

Some of the usual cheating signs can really be “false positives”.

For example:

• he is coming back from work quite late - he is not necessarily seeing someone else; he is simply working harder;
• she receives messages from her boss at late hours in the evening - her boss might have really forgotten to communicate some urgent task for the next day; it does not necessarily mean that she is dating the boss

Of course, on the other hand, if these are real signs of cheating and you do nothing about it (check this at least once), you are in danger to become ridiculosly stupid.

So, I’m not saying that these signs are not real, but they should not distroy your life. A soon as you suspect someone of cheating you, you will start having the feeling that everything that person does is somehow hidden from you or related to someone else that you would really like to.. “meet”

It happens to me know some people suffering of being cheated by their partners. Even though they suspect things, they still don’t have any proof - that would help a lot to clarify their continous heart ake. They need to know - is their suspicion real or is it just their mind, hurting their souls.

So, I thought, how could I help with this ?
- I don’t have time to help them spying on their partners
- I don’t have money to spend with detectives to spy on their partners

But I have some knowledge about some PC spying software (keyloggers).
Everybody is using a PC these days, so, what about installing a software that can monitor everything that your partner is doing on the home computer when you’re not around.

SO, I’ll try to recommend a piece of software every week that could help you see who and what your partner is talking with and I’ll wait for some feedback.
I hope this will help.

First software that could help is: Ardamax Keylogger 2.9

CLICK HERE to learn more about how this software can help you spy your partner’s PC.

Why did I do this ?

First, because I remember how my bed was after a passionate love affair with a beautiful and incredibly sexy smelling woman. I have so clear in mind that night and it still gives me fever when I remember her. I think any man would feel heaven is closer when a woman like the one I met makes love with him: the way she was dressed, the way she was moving (dancing the dance of seduction) and, most of all, the way she was smelling. The very next morning, when she left for her job, I remained a few more hours in bed, sniffing the bed sheets, holding close the pillows, thinking of her… and the night we had..

Words are not enough to describe the feeling - it’s my head, in my stomach, in my…

I was so excited by that night of passion that I completely forgot about the fact that my “regular” lover (I was having a girlfriend for some time then) was about to visit my apartment later on that day. And I did not want to stop enjoying that smell of that stranger woman that came in my life for another night and left such a powerful trace in my body and soul. My girlfriend was smelling good as well, but not like she did. I was charmed..

Somehow, I only wake up only when my spouse arrived and, like any woman, she immediately felt that perfume of love that was still present in my bedroom. Nature or human nature is amazing.. her woman instinct was telling her that another one has been in her place, in my bad. She start sniffing the sheets, the towels, and the she was looking for something in my eyes - she knew somehow that I have cheated her last night but she did not have any evidence .. only that .. perfume..

Second reason was fear - a strong feeling of cheating has been through my mind these days.

Experience and fear made me smell the bed.. to find out.. if cheating in love is back in my life, but from a different perspective.

If this will happen to me, I would not even think twice about it (at least I am honest with myself) - I am handsome man, I know I can have beautiful women if I want, so why not take advantage of God’s gifts for me - and, in addition, I have always liked to live my life. So, the honest answer to my girlfriend’s question would be “YES, of course I would not miss such an opportunity !” - But probably only a full would say something like that - isn’t it ?

On the other hand, I hate to lie to my baby. She is such a sweet and nice baby doll and I hate to hurt her. I can’t stand her crying, I can’t stand her look in her big, brown eyes, when she’s upset because of me.. Therefore I am trying to protect her as much as I can, but she… she is always looking for trouble. She is always asking me this kind of questions, she looks into my emails, my mobile phone, my past love letters, my messenger.. my all.. She seems to be looking for some.. evidence to condemn me, to cry in my face again. And this hurts me too.

So, I didn’t know what to say.. I tried to make a joke to get away with this - I said loud and clear :”Off course, I would never, ever… miss an opportunity to make love with another attractive woman! Moreover, I would invite you too, so that we can share the delicious body - what do you ?” - Result ? I just got slapped but she seemed to be happy with the answer - it was too crazy to be taken seriously so I could say .. I… just got away with it.

However, I am not always that clever or lucky - she is very clever too and she is returning me the “favors” - Can you believe she got me into the position of asking her the same stupid questions and sometimes I even look into her phone too !?!

And then I start the tough questions: who is this person ? who’s number is this? why did you get this message at this hour? and so on and so forth..

If this is love, with this kind of questions, than love is not that beautiful anymore..

I was writing her every week, I was calling her every two days. We seem to go over this difficult period very well and with much hope.

In the mean time, I was keeping in contact with my friends too and especially with one of them who I believed I can trust the most - he was the so called “best friend”. We did a lot of crazy stuff together: we went out together with girls that were friends then we cheated them together and a lot of things like that. I always thought he will never betray me, cause I knew I wouldn’t do that to him neither.

But now, after some time since I got back home and took back my girl, I had the surprise to find out that my good friend here was so kind and tried to prove to my girlfriend that I have cheated her too. And in a way or another he succeeded. But I was lucky enough that my girlfriend was so in love with me and put this away - I was giving her too much passion, care, attention and love and that was exactly what she wanted - the past didn’t matter to her. My love for her was true and obvious.

But what I am wondering is why did he do that ? What did he try to get ? My girlfriend ? Was he envious on me and my relationship ? (my girl is a beautiful woman) And today, I do not know how to react towards him.

I don’t know if I should tell him that I know what he did (by the way, my girlfriend confessed to me what he did) . Although I have promissed my girlfriend that I won’t disclose to him the fact that she denounced him, I am still tempted to see his face, to confront him - I am so curios what he has to say in his defense.

However, my best friend is a great lier - I know him well. So, I’m sure he will not even admit the truth until I would tell him that I know everything right from the source - which is my baby.

My mom say that I should forgive and forget and see of my own life - it will make me happier. And I think she is right.

And it was not nice. I was trying to get all those thoughts out of my mind while making fun of myself: “how can I think of that?!?” - I was saying.. But the thoughts were coming back, again and again.. with more power and a hurting feeling. An empty space seemed to open in my stomach and my head was burning.

When you have such feelings you are so tempted to do (or you start doing) crazy things, just to find out if your suspicions are true or not. You embarrass yourself, you humiliate yourself, you do things you would have swore you’ll never ever do.

So, me too, I did a stupid, but maybe in the end, efficient thing - I followed her to see if what she had said was true (she said she will go out with her girl friends only, .. by taxi) . And yes, she was getting out with her girl friends, but not by taxi (some guy pick her up) and not only with girls..

Actually I didn’t get any obvious proof of love cheating, but the feeling was there, so strong, so intense.. I am surprised that I was able to fall asleep after that..

The next day, I tried to see if she lies to me.. I asked her about the taxi and she.. lied, saying that she used a taxi to get to the club. I suggested that I know she’s lying and she said that she did that for my own protection.. Ha, ha - that was a good one.. I have probably used that a couple of times too, with some of my ex non important girlfriends.

It’s like a “cheating pattern” that all love cheaters follow and that I can easily recognize (I cheated in love too). But I still don’t (or don’t want to) believe she is actually cheating on me. And I don’t want to become a jealous paranoiac guy neither. But maybe this is part of that cheating pattern behavior too. I should know, shouldn’t I ?

I don’t know - the fact is that it’s so strange and unfamiliar to me to have this feeling of being cheated in love. I felt it once or twice in my life and after you have it once, you will not forget it.

I just hope I’ll clarify the situation within the following days (like any other cheated guy :)  - patterns again).

I wondered for a second if she touched my face from mistake or if she did it on purpose. I’ve got my answer almost instantly when she touched me again, this time longer and with that look in her eyes. I was shocked, thrilled, excited. My heart was beating fast, my cheeks were full of blood, my eyes were wide open in the dark, trying to catch a sign on her face, what was in her mind ?

And all this time, my good friend was enjoying his peaceful sleep .

His dear wife was flirting with me and caressing me with her hands around her husband’s neck. Honestly, I did not know how to react. But, the moment was so intense, so .. dangerous, so.. unforgettable… It was so difficult to resist the temptation to touch her too  -  she was looking so hot with only the shirt of his husband on her.

And I did.. I touched her… My thoughts went crazy, my hands were shivering, my mouth was wet of pleasure and secret passion; I was burning.. We were cheating her husband / my friend, in his own bad, in his own house, with him right next to us.

I just hope God will forgive us both..

I did not fear to show to my colleague that I liked and was very impressed by his story, but I did not tell him the true reason of that. He was actually very proud of having that woman in bed with him as soon as she broke up with his boss: he was flirting with her whenever she got into the office to visit her lover (the boss) and when he found out they were not together anymore, he took her out. What “moved” me so much is that, in the meantime, we was offering his shoulder to his poor boss suffering for losing the “restless lady” (the boss was very in love with her, but she was only after his money).

Actually, the reason I was so deeply moved by his story is that it somehow happened to me too, very long time ago… The difference is that in the story it was not my boss, but one of my “best friends” (as he pretended) - and I had the unfortunate role of the cheated boss.

I don’t know if I should call this cheating, but I know that I was very furious, mad and disappointed when I heard that my ex-lover was getting out with my “best friend”. It is true, she was not with me anymore at that time but I was still in love with her (she was my first love) and I was terribly suffering after we broke up.

And I was so naive and foolish to share my pain with that “good old friend” of mine who seemed to listen to me and offer me his compassion, while he was patiently waiting to get along with the most important woman for me at that time.

Of course, neither him nor my ex-girlfriend admit about their relationship, even if sometimes it was so obvious. I said to myself that it doesn’t matter anymore, that this was a good lesson to learn and that maybe someday, I’ll get my revenge.

And I did - oh God, I did get my revenge on both and they don’t even know.